I WUV YOU

[leedy]

Damn, I really want this to be a poll, and was just about to upgrade my account PURELY TO GET THIS FUNCTIONALITY RIGHT NOW (I laugh in the face of delayed gratification) when I realized that I'd left my credit card at home. Which is normally a good thing, as it stops me spending gratuitous money that I don't have, but...

Anyhow. Here's the thing. It is St. Valentine's Day on Monday. Now, usually myself and the boy go out for dinner on this Speshul Day Of Wuv (*heave*), but it's never been a Huge Big Deal, and this year we'd pretty much decided to go out some other day when the restaurants were less crowded/overpriced. Many of my friends are of similar mind. However, at band rehearsal last night, we were discussing how much more work we had to do for Thursday's gig, and were checking when the rehearsal room was free. Sunday and Monday. Grand. Somebody remembers that Monday is Valentine's Day. Suddenly, blanched faces everywhere, cries of "Oh God, the mot will kill me", etc. It transpires that many of my bandmates have partners that they believe will be Very Very Upset if there is not a special effort made on St. Valentine's Day, and that going to an essential band practice will not be regarded as a good excuse. I, on the other hand, was all, "Oh yeah, grand, sure I think we're going out on Friday instead".

So, am I and my likeminded friends just cynical jaded old things who wouldn't know romance if it came up and bit them? Is it a big deal for any of you, or do you think it's just an excuse to sell cards? Should I be atoning for my St. Valentine's Day absence from the home by filling the house with pink candles and huge "I LOVE YOU, BRIAN" banners? Etc.

Comments

[yiskah.livejournal.com]

I've been thinking about this, and I realise I may well be imposing my own prejudices on your situation, but are these bandmates men, by any chance? Because I have noted a distressing tendency among some men to portray girlfriends/wives/partners as Grand Withholders of Permission and Enemies of Fun. It's the attitude of 'oooh, I can't do that, the missus'd kill me' or 'not sure whether the wife'll allow me to do that' and good LORD it annoys me. Mark has been known to do this on occasion in my hearing and of course it forces me to punch him repeatedly in the head - I am your girlfriend, not your keeper, you are a grown man, and while I do expect a modicum of respect, i.e. letting me know if you're going to be out on an evening I think we might have plans, I am NOT some terrifying ogre who is out to prevent you from having a good time without me! GAAAAAH!

[leedy.livejournal.com]

are these bandmates men, by any chance?

Indeed they are, and yes, I do sense that, in addition to some genuine concern, there may be a bit of that "ooh, look at me, I'm all hen-pecked" thing going on. It annoys me too, I must say.

[pinguin.livejournal.com]

Yes! I know so many blokes who do that.

Then there are the other lot: we've been going out for 6 months, we see each other every weekend, telling me if you have something else on this Saturday night is a common courtesy, not the first step to wearing an apron when you do the washing up and referring to each other as "mother" and "father".